Amber and Aaron

Amber and Aaron

The Fun We've Already Had...

  • Graham Tomas born July 31 at 5:04 P.M. weighing 8 lbs, 12 oz.
  • December 2, 2011: PREGNANT!!!
  • Paisley Kate arrived August 21 at 5:38 P.M. weighing 7 lbs, 9 oz
  • DUE DATE: August 25, 2010!!!
  • Dec. 14, 2009- PREGNANT!!!
  • Oct. 07,2009- Had elective D&C.
  • Sept 28, 2009- No embryo on ultrasound. :(
  • Sept 15th, 2009- We found out we're PREGNANT!!!
  • Sept '09- Aaron had varicocele repair.
  • July '09- IUI #1 with HCG shot= No such luck
  • April '09- Ovarian drilling surgery, followed by hospitalization for uterine infection
  • Jan-Mar '09- metformin + 3 rounds of clomid= no ovulation
  • Dec. 11, 2008- Hysterosalpingogram (Fancy word for shooting dye through the ovaries. OUCH)
  • Nov '08- Sent to RE. Tried metformin alone for two months (No ovulation)
  • Oct '08- Diagnosed with PCOS based on amenorrhea and crazy hormone levels.
  • June '08- Aaron convinced me to start trying.
  • June '04- Got Hitched!

Monday, December 31, 2012


Overall, this was a great year for us. We welcomed our beautiful son who quickly terrified us with a case of meningitis and watched our gorgeous daughter become a funny, independent 2-year-old with a love of all animals and a hatred for mornings.

I gained 35 pounds with my giant fetus. Then I lost 33 pounds. I think the remaining 2 is in the milk makers.

I have spent about 1000 hours nursing over the past 5 months. Luckily I haven't had to pump much this time because he eats ALOT.

We changed about 15 diapers a day between 2 kids, so my math says that in 2012 we changed 1.3 million. Give or take a few. :). You're welcome, Pampers.

We just conquered our 2nd year as owners of the vet clinic. It was another successful year!

We went to Vegas for Aaron's vet conference, on a cruise to the Caribbean, and to the Dominican Republic for vacation. Learned that Paisley is a great traveler, Also figured out that traveling for 12 hrs while 7 months pregnant is exhausting!!!

I discovered a love for pineapple in my stir fry, chocolate covered pretzels and fudge. I mistakenly decided it wasn't my "thing" until I tried a sample somewhere and realized the error of my ways!

We pretty much haven't seen a movie since early 2010. I also haven't slept since then.

Paisley loves the letter "O" and counting from 7-11. She asks for "more some" when requesting something. Her language has increased a ton!!! She can also successfully jump with both feet leaving the floor. Her favorite things are robots, bubble guppies and trains.

Graham is way into booby juice and snuggling with mama. He loves watching his sister and smiling at anyone who makes eye contact with him.

If I am able to stay awake until midnight this year, it will be the first time to do so since 2010. We crashed out about 11 the last two years!!!

Hope everyone has a safe & Happy New Years!!!

Thursday, December 27, 2012

Giving it 100% but still never enough

Having two kids is drastically different than one. My time is now split into trying to keep two little people happy and fed and bathed. I have two people fighting for my attention and needing their mama.

Most of the time it goes fine. Paisley adores Graham as if he belongs to her and loves to help me change him, dress him and love on him. Her jealousy is really nonexistent. In fact, I feel like we have a best case scenario as far as adding a sibling goes.

When it gets tricky is when they both have a need for mommy and I have to choose. You know the moments. One has a poop explosion all over the living room while the other decides to fall and hurt themselves. Or when one is super tired and needs to be rocked while the other is hungry. Or even which one to load into the car first when it's freaky butt cold outside.

Whose needs are more important? How do you decide? Every day I lay down at night and think about what I could have done different and hope that my two babies know how loved they are.

But it is tough with two at such different ages. He is still such a baby. He needs more naps during the day and eats frequently and can't just run around and keep us with Paisley. So I have to hold him and feed him which takes me away from her a lot.

Here enters guilt. She is a busy fun toddler. She wants to play and stay on the go. And she still wants to snuggle her mom and be carried places. But with a 16 pound baby, 5 pound carrier, 5 pound diaper bag and 26 pound toddler, I feel like a overwhelmed donkey.

So, I struggle to find the balance. Which is really what life has become since adding kids to it. How much to devote to work and kids and myself and my spouse. Not to mention friends, family, etc. Ugh.

I know how lucky I am to have two perfectly healthy babies. And they are such great kids 90% of the time. But when the train details around here, it can get ugly quickly!!!

Monday, December 24, 2012

Merry Christmas!!!

Yay!!! I guess blogger let me post pictures again for my Christmas present!!!

Saturday, December 22, 2012

Aaaahhhh!!! The holiday season is making me crazy!!!

Every year this happens and every year I forget that it does. The holidays start getting closer and I literally lose my mind.

As a child, I loved Christmas. And since I got married, that all changed. I feel like the whole event is crammed pack with obligations to be so many places that we are exhausted and overstuffed and cranky by the end. I am so jealous of the one house families who can relax in one place and even nap after eating.

We put on our track shoes Christmas Eve and race through the holiday like Jackie Joyner Kersey. Not sure on spelling, but you get the point... We eat all we can muster to avoid hurt feelings and conjure up as much bonding time as possible in a short period.

I know what you're thinking. Cut back. Don't do as much. But it just isn't possible to leave these houses out. We've already left everything out that we possibly can.

And don't even get me started on how much I want the decorations down, the presents opened and put away and the tree drug to the curb. It's totally driving my OCD crazy!!!

Then you add in kids who I feel we are always trying to make this magical for. Between Santa visits, Elf on a Shelf, crafts, baking and other such cutesy activities, I feel like I'm pretending to be Martha Stewart around here. Which anyone who knows me would say couldn't be further from who I really am.

So, I'm trying to regain my focus and calm. Remember how sweet her face will be opening her presents. Enjoy our Christmas Eve services at our church. Thank God for my precious miracle babies. And then enjoy the 26th when life can go back to normal!!!

Tuesday, December 18, 2012

Who smells like pee?

Oh, that would be me. Graham chose to kick off our day by showering me with urine this morning while I was trying to figure out which diaper was his and which was his sisters. (Size 3 looks just like size 5 in the morning).

At first it just hit my jeans but my reaction time is ridiculously slow when I first wake up so he also got my shirt and the couch. This kid's bladder seems to have an amazingly large capacity considering how wet everything was.

You know you've really hit a low point in your life when you don't even consider changing clothes and just pat yourself off with a wipe. At least the kid wasn't in his clean clothes yet.

Monday, December 17, 2012

Blogger Comeback

Once upon a time, there was this infertile girl who started this blog in order to reach out to others who were in the same position as her. She hoped to find girls that would understand what she was going through.

What she learned was that this community would oftentimes be her saving grace. They would encourage her when she was worried, celebrate with her when she was happy and mourn with her when times went bad. These girls she'd never meet in real life were going to become some of her best friends.

The number of followers grew and grew and she loved reading the comments that people left. Every now and then she would even meet someone in person who was a follower. It was such a huge compliment to realize that people actually liked the crap she was writing.

But then the infertile girl did the unthinkable. She got pregnant. And the blog entered new territory. Happiness. Success. But she felt sad because she couldn't bring all of her blog friends along for the ride.

Once the non-sleeping demanding baby arrived, her blogging fell victim to the sleep deprivation and dirty diapers.

And then she really went crazy and was lucky enough to get pregnant again. But two babies in a house meant no time for anything other than an occasional bathroom trip and toothbrushing, on a good day.

So the followers dwindled and the comments became few and far between and she lost interest in trying.

But now she's back. She's reinventing this blog and following others again. She may only have one person who reads now and that's fine. But she needs to document this period of time. It's all such a blur with all of the craziness two kids brings. And she needs her blog friends still. She wants to encourage those still trying and celebrate when they get their BFP's. She wants to follow other moms and get tips on parenting these strange little creatures. Heaven knows she needs all the help she can get.

So, hope to get to know some of you better! :). And I hope to create an interesting post at least every now and then!

Thursday, December 13, 2012

Who needs sleep anyways?!?

It's official. Graham has been coerced by his big sister to stop being a good sleeper. I don't know how she convinced him or why she even thinks no sleep is a good idea. But I know she's to blame here.

Let's recap sleep on our house.

Pre-Paisley: lots of sleep whenever we felt like it. The only thing that would risk waking me in the middle of the night was a full bladder. I could sleep 10 hours at night and then nap for 3 the next day.

The Paisley Era: from night one of her life, she decided that you can sleep when you die and she didn't plan on missing out on things. She kept me up ALL night every night. Even now, she never sleeps more than 9-10 hours at night and still doesn't want to go down. She is just now napping consistently because I insisted out if necessity for my well-being.

The Graham Era: he was the sleeper I'd always dreamt about. Sleeping 4-5 hour stretches even in the hospital. He'd only wake to eat and then happily fall back to sleep. I was the mom who bragged that I finally had a good sleeper. Until right before 4 months, when he joined Paisley's forces of evil and chanted "hell no, we won't go... To sleep, that is".

He squirms and wallors and kicks and moans. He won't cry unless I fail to respond to his restless body syndrome within an allowable period of time (for a newborn this is about 20 seconds max). So I wake up a lot overnight. He never sleeps more than 3 hours, but I think lately he hasn't made it more than 2. Ouch.

Tried to wear him out by keeping him awake all day. He likes to nap in 15 minute increments several times a day and never sleep for a long stretch. Seems like he'd be tired at night, but guess not...

At least he's sweet and happy overnight though, right?!? Looking forward to a future chapter in our sleeping that includes a lot more of it!!!

Saturday, December 1, 2012

Potty Training: part 2

Several things I forgot to mention in my previous post. The little potty chair that we originally got disgusted me. The thing looks cute and innocent until the first exposure to bodily fluids. Then I feel it should be thrown into a red biohazard bag, airtight sealed, and picked up by men wearing hazmat suits.

Because your options in cleaning that sucker are pretty limited. 1.) rinse in sink. Gross. 2.) rinse in bath tub. Gross and inconvenient. 3.) dishwasher. Not possible and super gross.

So, we said out with that idea and bought an Elmo potty ring that fits on the "big potty". She also has a stool that she uses to mount the big potty.

Here's where a stubborn child comes into play: she has to do everything h herself. So potty time takes us 45 minutes. No kidding. Her dad and I take snacks in there and I'm thinking of mounting a TV above the toilet.

She must move the stool over to the potty from the sink. Then she removes her pants and shoes completely. Can't pee with those on for some reason. Lowers or removes her pull up. Climbs onto potty where she will sit until she manages to pee. This may be 10 seconds or 4 hours. We celebrate, she wipes, climbs down and flushes. She then starts the painstaking process of hand washing.

You would think she had terrible OCD. The child will wash her hands forever. And then she likes to brush her teeth. Extensively. Keep in mind she is still naked from the waist down at this point. You cannot redress her until the other tasks are complete.

Finally, she'll put her clothes back on just in time for her pea-sized bladder to fill up again...