When I finally found out that we were having a baby, a new set of discussions began. How large or small everyone thought I was, what books I should read, how important breastfeeding is, very honest opinions of the names I had chosen, which gender I was having (since both have been surprises).
And then when I first became a mother, it seemed to only worsen further. Now I get tips on eating, sleeping, potty-training, discipline, education, etc. And yeah, sometimes this is super helpful when it is solicited. It is NEVER good to get hints from a stranger, and yet they most like to give their input.
But the hottest topic of them all has got to be childbirth. Every single person seems to have a passionate idea on the subject. Even if they've never actually had a baby themselves. And my scheduled caesarean has definitely stirred the pot with some people.
I should start by saying that my blog family has been incredibly encouraging on this matter and I am SOOOO thankful for that. The comments have put my mind at ease and I have even re-read them multiple times. However, about 25% of the rest of the world thinks I'm crazy. I get everything from "don't you at least want to try to have the baby naturally?" to "the ultrasound is probably way off and the baby isn't that big." Yep, I know you have a 2nd cousin who delivered a 12 pound baby vaginally. Good for them. Is your 2nd cousin only 5'3" and weighing 115 pounds before pregnancy? Does your cousin have any bladder control left now?
This wasn't a decision I made on the spot. We've had since week 22 to think about what we'd do if our baby did continue to be large for gestational age. I've known for months that this was a very likely possibility. And I also have the medical background to know exactly what a c-section vs. vaginal delivery entails. I also know the risks with each. I've assisted on each type of delivery numerous times and know very well the bad outcomes that can happen during childbirth.
My doctor and I feel very secure in our decision to deliver this baby by c-section. If he/she isn't as big as we've been led to believe from MANY ultrasounds over the course of the past 14 weeks, then I'll be fine. As long as this little one comes into the world safely, I'm perfectly content with the birthing experience.
Just as I'm perfectly happy with your own birthing hopes and dreams. Have your baby at home or at the hospital. Get an epidural or do it natural. Eat the freaking placenta if you want. I don't care as long as it's what works for you. :)
I'm looking forward to a very short birthing process this time. I'm excited that I won't be cut from my hoo-ha clear up to the middle of my back (it seemed). I don't want to wear an ice pack in my underwear for a week or spray with a squirt bottle every time I pee since I can't wipe. I like the planning that I can do with this chosen date. And I especially love that I am making the safest decision for our baby based on lots of medical knowledge and some very educated guessing.
|Paisley laying on a bed of nails at our Science Musem- she's such a stubborn and brave little girl.|
|The "tiny" baby at 36 weeks. Weight gain is holding steady at 27 pounds!!! Belly is growing so rapidly I feel that it might explode!|