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Couples Retreat

Aaron and I decided to go last night to see Couples Retreat with Vince Vaughn. Well, not with Vince Vaughn, I'm sure he had other plans. I should say "starring". The premise of the movie is that a couple is really contemplating divorce because their marriage is falling apart. Why you ask? Oh, because they've been dealing with infertility for 12 months.

Only 12 months... That was when it just started to get bad. Up till then we still had hope. Anyways, I digress...

So there I sat through half of the movie, missing the funny parts because I was wondering why we are handling this so well. What makes us immune to the fighting or depression or even divorce? Infertility can wreck your life and it definitely changes your relationships. All of them.

We actually know about 4 couples going through divorce right now and none of them really have anything all that bad going on. And they've all been married less time than us.

Aaron and I have always been great at making fun of bad situations. The worse things around us get, the more material we have to work with. You know when you think your day can't possibly get any worse and something unthinkable happens, and you just start laughing uncontrollably. Welcome to our life. Totally there.

He is my best friend in the world and when things like this happen, it only pulls me closer to him. I realize how much I need him in my life and how much he cares about me. This will make us love a baby so much more in the end because our baby will truly be a miracle. And our marriage will be that much stronger. I feel like we have truly survived a storm and come through it even better than before. (Note to Aaron: don't get too full of yourself, I can change my mind.)

So I think I'm going to skip out on the couples counseling for now, although it might be fun. And I totally recommend the movie. Don't let my long boring post deter you! It's really funny.

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  1. JessOctober 10, 2009 at 10:20 AM

    I wonder the same things sometimes. How is it that others divorce when they don't even have half the heartache we do but our marriage is still strong? We are a lot like you guys. IF has made us so much stronger as a couple. I'm glad that you have a wonderful man by your side while you are going through this!

    12 months...they need to try 4 years!

    babyparamore.blogspot.com

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  2. jrose35October 10, 2009 at 11:10 AM

    I realized after the miscarriage how strong our marriage really was. We became an even stronger couple after our tragedy and I feel blessed everyday that I got marry this man and have him in my life. We also make fun of our bad situations and Geoff always manages to keep me smiling and laughing. It does feel like coming through a major storm and Geoff was my lifesaver I couldn't have done it without him. You are right this experience will make our babies more special and a true miracle. I think we will appreciate them even more I remember reading this open letter a woman posted she was infertile for many years about how happy she was was to get up when her baby cried for she now had a baby to get up for. That is how I will feel I will be so happy to suffer all the pains of pregnancy and the late-night feedings and being so tired I fall asleep in chairs it will all be a total joy to me. I don't think any of us will complain we will enjoy every minute of our beautiful miracle! We will have to see that movie I love the actors especially Jason Bateman I grew up with him!

    Sending lots of hugs and support to you!!

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  3. Andrea ArbuckleOctober 10, 2009 at 5:38 PM

    I think its the nature of your relationship & both of you have a great outlook on life!!! Not to mention you took Animal Science classes & joined pre-vet club just so you could hang out with him!

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  4. JessOctober 10, 2009 at 7:50 PM

    Check out my blog! You have an award!

    babyparamore.blogspot.com

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